When it comes to the holidays, one size does not fit all.

Whether, you are celebrating Thanksgiving, Christmas, Chanukah or Kwanza, the holidays are too often a pressure-filled time that can make any of us feel guilty for not being super girl or super Mom.

What we are really interested in is the final result - and that's having a wonderful and loving holiday season with family and friends. How we get to that point, however, is matter of choice.

Just because you aren't Martha, and don't aspire to be, doesn't mean that your holiday cannot be spectacular. Whether you make it yourself, have it catered, or do a combination of both - your holiday meal can be just as fabulous as the next gal's. Here are some 'guilt-free' tips to get you to 2006.

Make a Reservation.
Now, now, there is nothing wrong with going to a spectacular restaurant to celebrate and letting someone else do all the cooking and cleaning. First of all, everyone gets what they want - whether you have carnivores, vegetarians or tried and true turkey lovers - all in your party will get their first choice of what they want to eat prepared by experienced chefs.

You'll avoid exhausting yourself shopping and schlepping, and be fully sated after a wonderful, elegant multi-course meal. There are many high-end local restaurants that are open for the holidays but you need to make reservations early and without shame.

Call The Caterers.
Americans buy more catered or take out food now than they ever have before. Many caterers have moved beyond cruditÈs and cheese puffs, to creating your entire Thanksgiving feast. Having your meal catered is not necessarily expensive anymore either.

You can get a full Thanksgiving dinner for as little as $100 dollars for eight guests! So, if you don't want to go out to eat and long to enjoy the comforts of home - and the leftovers - there are many local catering firms that will be happy to deliver your meal to you - with heating instructions, of course.

Make it From Scratch.
Okay, I admit it, my name is Andrea Farnum and I have made all of Thanksgiving dinner from scratch. Sometimes it seems like temporary insanity and other times it just seems like fun. Nevertheless, given sufficient time, cooking can be therapy and enjoyment for some.

Putting together tried and true family recipes and reliving the memories can be a priceless experience - and something very important to pass on to our children or nieces or nephews. Instead of running yourself ragged, perhaps take an extra day off to really enjoy the whole process of preparing the feast - there's no present like the time.

The Combo Platter.
Do you love baking but loathe mashing potatoes? Does cooking a turkey inspire you to do the happy dance but baking a pie drive you to the depths of despair?

Don't worry, there's help for you. Do what you are good at, and what you like and leave the rest to the experts. As far as I know, there are no federal or state laws that prohibit you from making only a portion of the Thanksgiving meal. So, if you have a killer pecan pie recipe - bake the pie and call the caterer, or ask family and friends to supply the turkey. You'll feel better for it, less resentful, and more relaxed.

Over the last few years, I have made reservations, called the caterer, made it from scratch and ordered the combo platter. Depending on my circumstance, my location, or the state of my moods, I have morphed my holiday into whatever I needed it to be. Ultimately, it's all just a means to an end.

So, if you have warm, wonderful memories of this holiday season, does it really matter how you got them?